Hatch Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 I need one, anyone been through this so that they can recommend ? or are you one? I'm based in Chandlers Ford , so local preferred but not essential. ( if they are a right nasty bastard , that would help ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armitage Shanks Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 Been through it last year. I am a solicitor and there is a matrimonial solicitor in my firm that I used but I am based up in Leicester. She is a Rottweiller though and eats kids for breakfast. Probably too far for you but let me know if you are interested as most matrimonial work can be done via phone and email - face to face not really necessary. Horrible bloody process though and the quicker you can get it done the better - for your sanity and your pocket. Let me know if you want to chat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tokyo-Saint Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 I think egg is a divorce solicitor, you could ask him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dubai_phil Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 You have a PM Hatch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torres Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 I need one, anyone been through this so that they can recommend ? or are you one? I'm based in Chandlers Ford , so local preferred but not essential. ( if they are a right nasty bastard , that would help ) Don't bother. Take Oscar's approach. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barry Sanchez Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 I dont know anybody suitable but I hope it all works out for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seaford Saint Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 I wanted to offer a similar response to Barry's above. It's a crap time and you can expect to be pulled to pieces emotionally. Good luck mate and remember a trouble shared is a trouble halved, believe it or not this board is made up of some decent people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trader Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 Hatch, are there children involved in this unfortunate position? If there are not, I have invaluable advice. PM me if this is the case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joe Kirkup Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 Hatch, I've been divorced twice. One thing I would always recommend is mediation. If you can agree a settlement via mediation then go to a solicitor with the proposal it will save you a fortune. Also, you will be getting advice from anyone and everyone, but your situation is unique to you so do what you think is right. As I am now one of those giving advice, all I can say is don't do anything you'll regret later. Chin up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hatch Posted 15 February, 2013 Author Share Posted 15 February, 2013 Hatch, are there children involved in this unfortunate position? If there are not, I have invaluable advice. PM me if this is the case. 3 girls. all of whom currently living with the devil, but want to live with me, but she is fighting it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Window Cleaner Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 3 girls. all of whom currently living with the devil, but want to live with me, but she is fighting it. Sounds like it's going to get nasty then, make sure you get better representation than your soon to be ex. My brother in law and his ex both wanted custody of their daughter, it got really, really unpleasant. The ex got custody but the fall out was so evil that she ended up topping herself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minsk Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 3 girls. all of whom currently living with the devil, but want to live with me, but she is fighting it. Ouch! Good luck buddy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saint Billy Posted 15 February, 2013 Share Posted 15 February, 2013 Feel for you Hatch, have been through it as well and it is not a nice experience. Stick with it mate and try to keep the girls away from all the fallout. Can't recommend anyone as I no longer live down that way but I am sure there are plenty here who have experienced the same grief and can recommend decent solicitors. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kipstryker Posted 16 February, 2013 Share Posted 16 February, 2013 Joanne Houston - just family law. Based near the airport. My ex as it happens, and despite our differences, she is a first class family lawyer and I still recommend the *****! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
egg Posted 16 February, 2013 Share Posted 16 February, 2013 PM'd Mediation has been mentioned. It can work but is far from ideal for everyone. I'll gladly talk you through the options. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hatch Posted 16 February, 2013 Author Share Posted 16 February, 2013 cheers guys, the divorce is not the bad thing, I'm ok with that, its the (messy) finances and child arrangements that need agreeing. will consider my options. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viking Warrior Posted 16 February, 2013 Share Posted 16 February, 2013 Hatch I know exactly where you are coming from re finances and child arrangements . Keep on top of it and remain positive otherwise the black dog and the ***** will make life hell . Good luck hatch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilippineSaint Posted 17 February, 2013 Share Posted 17 February, 2013 went for a divorce in the UK as can't do it in Philippines and non resident in Dubai where ex is living, When the lawyer found there was nothing to divi up he wasn't interested finding all sorts of excuses to do nothing. In the end I did it all myself, the ex wife got nothing and I got to keep the kids. so it is possible to keep it cheap. and get the right result. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HedgeEnder Posted 17 February, 2013 Share Posted 17 February, 2013 Going through it at the moment. Best advice I can give is keep the kids away from all the nastiness (I have 3 boys who live with their mum but I'm hoping one day will choose to live with me). My lawyer is Sousa Richards in Southampton and we are using Lamport Bassitt for the mediation (beware though we have only had 3 mediation sessions and already racked up a bill of £1000) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ottery st mary Posted 17 February, 2013 Share Posted 17 February, 2013 (edited) The Pistorius method might be a little OTT at this stage of your planning;) Sorreeeee.......Good luck Hatch.......Most of us have been there:D Edited 17 February, 2013 by ottery st mary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trader Posted 17 February, 2013 Share Posted 17 February, 2013 cheers guys, the divorce is not the bad thing, I'm ok with that, its the (messy) finances and child arrangements that need agreeing. will consider my options. Just try to keep it civilised and try to agree between yourselves. Inevitably there will have to be compromise on both sides. As much as possible try to keep solicitors out of the equation - if things get nasty they will be the only winners in the situation. My kids were over 18 at the time of my divorce which made things easier, but my ex and I sat down together and filled out the forms and sent them in to the court. It was all as painless as possible. As a side effect I am still good friends with my ex and I think my grown up children appreciate that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tractor_Saint Posted 17 February, 2013 Share Posted 17 February, 2013 (edited) Hatch, I've been divorced twice. One thing I would always recommend is mediation. If you can agree a settlement via mediation then go to a solicitor with the proposal it will save you a fortune. Excellent advice - same here, agree between the two of you (get a friend who's a joint friend if need be) and agree who has what and how the finances will be sorted. Pension etc needs sorting. Get it agreed in principle between both of you and you'll save a hell of a lot of money. If you get solicitors involved at the outset then you'll be paying through the nose for something you could agree between the two of you. Bite your tongue, talk to her, get an agreement before you both go to solicitors. Key piece of advice is you're doing this for the kids and not for you and the ex. Whatever comes up, whatever happens, the kids can not suffer. Make sure the b*tch suffers but not to the detriment to the kids. Edited 17 February, 2013 by Tractor_Saint Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lambert1979 Posted 17 February, 2013 Share Posted 17 February, 2013 Stephen Kent of dutton Gregory in Bedford place.....lovely guy and excellent at his job Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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