JustMike

why? as i said, i have evidence, that in my situation disproves yours, doesnt make it right or wrong though, does it?

assessing needs of a child for a job is different from assessing needs of a child from a parents perspective. When you have kids you will see what I mean.

name was on birth cert and they had my surname, but as i wasnt married, i had to apply to the court for parental responsibility. now it is granted automatically if name is on birth cert

hahaha

well, mine clearly havent. dont need to google that, i have 4 seperate cases right in front of me

again, until you have kids and really know how things work. It's one thing working with kids but your job you leave at work, its no subsitute for the real, 24/7 thing

I guess I could have taken it that way, but i have thicker skin than that

Think its more a case because we werent married

what goes with that? As I said, my kids are fine, heathy, intelligent, polite etc etc and they have had no mum around. Look, yes in an ideal world I would lve to have had the 2.4 children thing but for whatever reason that didnt happen and I had to adapt.

...more experienced then

dont actually think it was your post I was responding to. So what have my kids missed out on then?

it was in response to a comment about how kids should have both parents

sooo, you dont have children and yet consider yourself more qualified? How does that work?

because until you have children you wont truely understand. More experience than who?

sorry for bleating on about this, I should write a book!

I guess this thread proves that people will always agree / disagree on many different topics, especially when it is something "un-natural" or that goes against the grain. It's not that long ago that I faced similar when my children came to live alone with me, I faced predjuces from areas such as social services and the courts as a man raising kids alone was not the done thing, had to prove that i was capable, this led to me calling everyone in a meeting sexist as woman were not treated how i was. As a result of my case (and a few others) the law changed in 2001 which basically gave dads just as much rights as mothers, and if the mother was no longer around or incapable of raising the child then the father didnt have to go through barriers that i did.

but the kids will pick up on bad vibes, I admire and respect people that at least try this first, what if he reoffends (for want of a better term)? It is hard always knowing what to do for the best. On the bullying issue, Have noticed that the younger generation are alot more open-minded about things

thanks I guess that's the key line, "...making your situation work"

didnt say to ignore it but it's hardly stable is it?

well yes there will obviously be situations where they get on but dont love each other but it still comes out, adults have needs too

Turkish / Hypo...just out of interest, do you have children?

how is 2 people that dont get on staying together stable? Kids, especially young children pick up on bad vibes and if anything it makes them more unstable.

best thing you have said for a while!

I am more qualified than most to comment on this seeing as I have been raising my kids alone since 1999. They are fit, healthy and well loved. Doing very well at school and are not bullied because their mum isnt around. I have met many in the same boat over the years and have found similar. For this, I had to adapt to both roles and it clearly works.

sorry but that is bull! Where are your stats on this? There is not enough cases of the alternative to make a fair test. You ignore all those kids that are raised by their biological parents that go off the rails. It's easy to dismiss same sex parenting / loan parenting because it goes against the individuals beliefs.