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Good question. How is this thing going to work? Pap, can we have a pcture of you so we know who we're looking for? Bucks, I'll probably phone you and find you first if that's OK?

Are you coming Wednesay night, Crazy? Would be cool to meet you!

Oh I can knock back a pint much quicker than that, it's just the knat **** they serve in the Stadium is so cold and fizzy it doesn't go down half as smooth! My Dad taught me well...

Oh wow, if you Google 'Coxford Lou', first search result is: http://www.police.uk/hampshire/1SN02/team/pc-lou-wright/ Now you're in trouble boys!! PS. That's not me, I promise.

oh no, what have I done. Now everyone thinks I'm a boring ball breaker. This thread has ruined my reputation!!

Pap, since the Manchester thread, I think I've probably scared off anyone from joining us. They think I'll be a ball breaker! Which makes me feel very sad. Guys, I promise I won't talk about feminism!! Just football! It will be very nice to meet you and your daughter, Pap...

No, but you misunderstand me Bletch! The feminist stuff is confusing things - this isn't about men v woman - I just happen to be having this debate on a forum full of men (women can be equally nasty towards other women). I go back to my original criteria: Is it fun - if so, lucky you, carry on as you are Is it harming someone - if so, then stop. I'd class a woman having an affair with a married man as harming someone, so my advice would be not to do it. That said, plenty of decent people have got themselves into that kind of mess in the past, so I'm certainly not going to burn them at the stake for doing so. People f*ck up all the time, that's life. I not having a go at 'men' as a group. I like men! I'm just trying to respond to individuals. If it sounds like I'm critisising men as a generic group, feel free to call me on it, and I'll try and better explain what I mean or rephrase. The fact is, none of my male friends would have opinions like this, so I wouldnt dream of lumping you all together! Sorry if I'm not responding to all your points. I'm on an iPad and its a nightmare copying and pasting. I have lots of thoughts on this topic, that I may or may not be articulating that well, around women's behaviour (on larger scale) being influenced by fear of retribution, but I'll save you the joy of that another time! I hope I don't really sound holier than thou...

Aw, Bletchy, you've gone all serious on me. Do you think if I found it difficult to laugh at myself, I'd last on here for more than 5 minutes?! Shame you can't make it on Weds...

That's a good observation. Although I'm not entirely sure what point you're making?

That's a great way to describe it - he has been just that!

You'd think. But unfortunately there aren't words like 'slapper', 'slut', 'bint', 'slag' to describe men, or any shame attached to it whatsoever. So while he might get a bollocking from his club, he certainly won't have any consequences that will affect his reputation in anything other than a positive way.

Why don't you come to the pub on Wednesday and make jokes like that to my face, Bletch? If you've got the nerve.

LOL! I definitely didn't do that!! I said, don't judge someone until you've met them or been in their shoes. And I couldn't understand why every effing post on this thread has been about her 'deserving it' rather than thinking the guys who shared the film were despicable. But no, you guys just can't see this, because I reckon you've got this daft notion of women being little angels sitting high on a pedestal, who can (or should!) do no wrong. Just don't fall off that pedestal, ladies! Whereas blokes - it's all a bit of a laugh, innit. Whereas, I think what she, and he did is mildly amusing (just glad I wasn't in the queue waiting for them). What the lads who filmed then circulated the film did, is pretty bloody disgusting. Hope my stance is now clear on that issue!

What's good enough for a girl in Manchester is good enough for Bearsy, I say! I know you're all ready to respond with those ugly, demeaning words you used in the other thread, because you're feeling disgust and moral indignation right now, but don't do it guys! Bearsy is a good egg, and shouldn't be judged on his sexual behaviour - he's not harming anyone!

Thanks eurosaint!

Funny, CB.

Hi Bearsy. I'd like to give you a thoughtful response to this, but at the moment I'm vomiting in the toilet after reading Hypos "mitigate the actions" comment below. (Is vomiting in toilets allowed?! Ack, I can't remember what's on or off the 'bint' list!!) To answer your question, I'm not responding as a feminist (feminism =equality, no more no less). I'm responding as me. Which means there's a mix of: love of humour derived from outrageous circumstances, hate for anything overly moralistic particularly relating to sex, dislike of prejudging people, hate for any phrases like 'bint', 'slag' etc., sensitivity (as a woman) around people defining what is and isn't acceptable behaviour, hate for 'blame the victim' mentality, alongside general optimism thinking the best of people until I find out otherwise, and general urge to be nice to people rather than mean. That is what's driving my thinking on this topic. Sorry there's no easy one word summary.

Society has become this amazing place where, rather than spend every evening doing the washing up, while their bloke is sh*gging the secretary, women can now damn well do whatever the hell they want, including having a sh*g in the toilets if that's what suits them. And it's f*cking great!! (Scuse the language)

Pah, no it's not. This is the Word Thread, one of the tamest threads in the history of Saintsweb. It's like its own parallel universe. The fact that no one has got in a rage with me yet for being off topic, is evidence they're all drugged up zombies. [kidding guys, please don't get angry with me, I'm off I promise!!]

At last, aintforever, you've made a point that's justifiable! The feeling of mild irritation you would be experiencing, however, doesn't justify the actions of the men circulating the film without the girl's permission, or the moral outrage you're spouting off.

Oh, thank the Lord you're here KRG. I'm getting more depressed by the minute!

Here's a simple life criteria that's helps bypass years of religious moralism, even when it's so ingrained, you can't see it for what it is (not defined by me): Is it fun? - if so, carry on, and have a blast. Are you harming anyone else? - if so, stop. The girl - fine on both counts. The boys - failed on the latter. The "what do you expect...its your own fault" argument makes me shudder.

No it doesn't. See Adriansfc point as referenced above.

Hang on, is this like a joke thread that I've accidentally taken seriously? Sometimes, I really can't tell the difference...

In all honesty, I've got zero interest in his nutsack. But if you're interested, then I support the question being asked.