Poshie72

Are muffins still on the menu tonight then

Fantastic news. Many thanks for the update

RIP Paul

Good result. For once the ref and linesman on our side. So who's buying the muffins then

offside haha

Dont do it dont do it, you know it makes sense:rolleyes:

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you have way too much time on your hands

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me to blueburry flavour

only heard the last 10 mins. Is there anyone actually at the match cos it sounded like a morgue

Happy Birthday ESB

Congrats Grandad! Good to hear mum and babe are doing well. Hope she doesnt have to wait to much longer to get her op

Mortgage Legal Aid contribution Food shopping

both work and finances but mainly due to the stupid times that the games are played

My son, in year 1 is learning as 'zed' as is my youngest who is in nursery

Well nothing can be harder or more challenging than supporting Saints

You sound like a wonderful father. :goodman: And I agree children should be the first priority. Your Ex sounds like a right *****. As said I work but it is for the benefit of my children, not for me. I spend as much time as I can with the kids, and only do things for myself when they are with their dad. In my spare time (?? lol) I am also studying to be qualified in my profession. This is done at night when they are in bed. I rarely go out, if I had the money, my bf was introduced approx 2 months after meeting and it was taken slowly. They are my number one priority. Please try not to get bitter. Do what you are doing, spending the time you have with your son enjoying yourselves. he will remember and it will be the time he spends with you that he will talk about. I know that I sound angry and hateful towards my ex, but I try not to let it affect the kids. As you said they did not ask to be born It is not their fault.

No offence taken. Our arrangement is our own agreement. Have not been to court over custody. And yes it does sound strange me saying on the one hand that I have suffered from PND but was never a threat having just questioned my ex's mental state. The difference being, I was under constant care with the Dr's and councellors (sp), where as he doesnt see that he has a problem, it's everyone else. In fact I have only stopped him seeing them once, when I had to get an injunction out on him for harrasement, and that was just to let the dust settle, as it is not fair to drag them into our arguments. But being a mum it takes news items like this and you cant help thinking 'what if?' I am not for one second saying that he would ever do anything, despite his mysterious ways and lack of funding for his kids, he does love them to bits and I don't think he would do anything so irrational. But as BTF says ... who knows ... and I am sure he probably has the same thoughts going through his head about me. Just seen your last post

Friday: At the hospital with my youngest after cracking his head open on a sign post doh! Saturday: Boring housework, listening to sky sports for updates ... what updates?? Watched rubbish film in the evening with the other half Sunday: Took kids to their dads, helped bf put 2 new showers in a friends house. Collected kids 7/10

SL - I feel for you too. I wish all fathers were like you. Unfortuantly mine is a bastard, thinks he can see the kids at a drop of a hat and not pay towards their upkeep. I work full time (because I didnt want to live off the state), claim all the benefits I can, 2 of my children have to have childcare before / after school and I am barely making ends meet. He left me with his debts (which he promised to pay ha ha), and whilst I am at home when I am not working, given up my season ticket, he is going out on jolly's with his mates, whilst telling me he is skint. I would be grateful for my ex to be like you

I agree BTF. I have custody of my children... so yes I am lucky and I can pull the strings if their father mucks about with money, access arrangements etc. But I think I may re-think after this. Without saying too much, his state of mind isn't 'normal', it was like this before we split. But me refusing him access may one day be enough to push him over the edge. And I dont necesarily mean taking my boys life. What if he just disappeared with them. It's something I hadn't thought about because I dont believe that he would do anything like that. But I am sure the mother of these 2 little girls thought the same. As you said who knows what the events were leading up to this awful tragedy, what was the one thing to push him over the edge. Looking at it from the other way. I suffered Post natal depression after my 2nd child for 5 very long years. I know how bad my state of mind was at times. But never once did I think of harming my children. But maybe there could have been something, that thankfully never happened, that could have done that to me. I dont know.

Words failed me when I heard on the radio this morning. As a mum I couldn't imagine how any parent can do this. Two little girls lost. RIP. Just a shame that no one saw any warning signs (if there were any) that the fathers mental state was deteriorating.

Started watching this last night, switched off after about 30 mins as it was so boring

Yes it £35k but what you have to be careful with is if you hold £35k with HBOS and £35k with LloydsTSB at the moment you will get £70k back. When they merge however they will become one entity, so you would only get £35k back. Used to work for LloydsTSB. Glad I dont now. had all the worry of potential losing my job when they took over TSB and the amount of staff that they had to shed was alot less than this time round