hypochondriac

I know that. What I'm saying is wealth should not be a factor when deciding who should and should not adopt kids. The fact that Elton is rich does not make him more suited to care for a child.

That's half the problem!

Not very fair of a mother to contact their child who they haven't seen for 18 years. Could mess up the child.

Male and female? I need balanced babysitting from both sexes

Anyway we won't agree. The only point I contend is that all children cannot benefit from a mother when growing up. You don't have to be a parent to see the numerous qualities a mother brings, many of which a man simply does not posses. Anyway well done on bringing up your children as a single parent, despite what certain lefty types think on here I was not trying to insult you.

I will let you know

When I have a child (you never know could be soon) I will come back to you with the exact same points. My parents had me and they believe the same thing. What would you say to them?

The majority would disagree with you. I would imagine there are anomalies but the vast amount of literature on the subject (and my extensive personal experience due to my job) suggests that a mother is important in the development of a child, purely due to a male and female's genetic makeup, their different skills, how their brains are wired differently, that they play differently, that they teach differently etc.

That's extremely patronising.

I'm surprised that you think that children do not benefit from a mother in their lives, I really am.

Again what do you mean by 'how things work?' Because I would argue that I am just as qualified at assessing the needs of a child through both my job (and if you think I leave my job at work you would be surprised!) through looking after my sister who was much younger than myself and through a couple of years I spent caring for my Auntie's child when she was ill.

Less of a reactionary lefty

Do you honestly not think that a child does not miss out on anything by not having an ever present mother (or motherly figure?) Despite extensive studies suggesting otherwise? (and no I am not going to hunt on the internet to find relevant literature, it is all available should you wish.)

How on earth do you know? For all you know I could be a child psychologist.

FFS how is that in any way insulting. You really irritate me.

An ever present mother and everything that goes with that. I'm sure you're a great dad but I would be saying the same even if I were in the same situation as you.

Have to agree here...

More qualified at what???

If you look I said kids can cope fine without one parent but ideally they want two. Children will miss out on small things, if you work in a nursery for any length of time then you can always spot the three year olds who come from a single parent home.

I'm not sure what you are getting at. A single parent and a same sex parent is something completely different.

You. And wouldn't understand what? The potential negative effects that a same sex couple could have on a child's upbringing that a heterosexual couple would not have?

They don't. It's why in general straight couples are given priority.

Not sure why that is relevant. Am certain I have more experience of how upbringing affects children though.

I wouldn't say they NEED it (children can manage perfectly well with one parent) but it is infinitely preferable and you do miss out with a single parent. Go work in a children's nursery and after a while you can recognise the three year olds with single parents without being told. Seriously.

Same applies.