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Thanks for this Shroppie. Good to read a thoughtful and well balanced post for a change! I don’t think any of us was delighted with the January transfer window but I did hear that we had a transfer lined up early on that fell through. The problem, as we all know, is getting the right players in. If they are not available for whatever reason, the last thing we need is to sign more bang average players. It looks like we will limp through until the summer when a lot of work needs to be done. I don’t see the point in kicking off now, but if we go into next season without major surgery on the squad, even I might get my pitchfork out.

I was on that and a variety of drugs over a period of time including Prozac which did nothing for me. I don’t think any of them did much for me but at least I had no trouble coming off any of them. I did a variety of therapies over time including hypnotherapy. The one that helped the most for me was group therapy sessions where I found it helpful to know that I was alone and that each of us responds in different ways and have different triggers but the end results on the nervous system are the same. It does take time and sometimes you have a relapse and need help again. I also read a ton of self help books. Some did help, some didn’t. But it was all a part of a process for taking responsibility. Like you I had clinical depression. The doctor who first diagnosed me called it a smiling depression because I (and many others) covered it up by making jokes and wearing a happy mask when everything else underneath had turned to crap. Apart from feeling that I couldn’t cope anymore, one of the worst symptoms was the insomnia. It is bad enough over thinking and not dealing with things during the daytime but lying awake every night for most of the night when you have nothing to do other than churn the crap over in your mind was soul destroying. I found cognitive therapy to be very helpful. If I find myself slipping back I have the tools to reframe the situation and that certainly helps. I have something called catastrophic thinking where you imagine the worst happening in certain situations and when that occurs now I automatically reframe my thoughts like a reset button. Different things works for different people. It’s often a question of trial and error to find what suits you best. One thing I will always remember. I used to think that I was mentally weak for ending up the way I did. What they explain to you is that you are not weak, you just carry on trying to deal with sh*t long after you should get help resulting in an eventual breakdown in your coping mechanism. Hats off to you and everyone else on here who has battled or is battling mental illness. It sucks. If you have a broken bone you get sympathy because there is a physical manifestation of your disability. If you are suffering with mental health problems people either don’t know what is going on with you are they think you are an a5se because of your behaviour. As we know , some people don’t make it and bail out. To go through this **** and to come out the other side takes real guts.

More than one by the sound of it. But I guess it is perfectly ok to belittle people and swear at people in the workplace.

The thing is that the drugs are supposed to stabilise your condition but it is the therapy that helps you. One without the other doesn’t work.

It appears that there will be yet another Johnson child. Hasn’t he heard of contraception. And another marriage...and divorce eventually I expect. Why don’t some women ever learn?

I agree that people should get jobs on merit, but when you retire from playing and want to be a media pundit how do you get that job unless someone gives you a chance? How do you get better at it unless you are given time in the job? As has been mention, there are a number of male pundits who have had long careers despite being poor.

The people on my wife’s course of treatment don’t sound like internet freaks. The people I have shared group sessions with were all genuine too. I am sure some people are making the most of a bad day, but it is not difficult to tell those who really are struggling.

We were told that Diane Abbot would be a nightmare of a Home Secretary. It sounds like Priti Patel is already making a case for eclipsing her. No wonder the part time Prime Minister has gone into hiding.

Mental health issues are getting a lot of media coverage these days and rightly so, but it appears that our Government are still not funding it properly. My wife has been in a programme since last year that has been helpful but sporadic and not really as committed as it should be. Fortunately she is in a much better place now, which is just as well. If you aren’t suicidal you have to wait for weeks/months in between sessions. She has one final session to go in her current course but has been told that this is the last one as there is no more funding available for this particular course. There are 6 other people on the course and my wife says that none of the others are doing well at all and are all struggling with depression and anxiety. A couple of them have been signed off work long term. What will happen to them she doesn’t know. Her counsellor is very upset about it too, as you can imagine. The corona virus is a problem, but not as big a problem as mental health. I had some issues a few years back but was fortunate enough to have private health insurance. When that ran out I was able to afford to pay for private sessions myself so haven’t used the NHS much. When I did a couple of years ago, the staff were committed and helpful but were clearly unable to meet the demand, so sessions were limited. Anyone else finding that the NHS can’t cope with amount of mental health issues they have to deal with?

What about the many outright rapes that he allegedly committed. Did those help career progression too?

Get off your arse and do something or sit behind your keyboard and snipe. Not really a strange few months at all, just same old same old.

Played for Chelsea and England and has an MBE, but still Duckie knows more about football than she does because he has a penis, apparently.

Have you bothered to read anything published by his many victims? You really are a dinosaur.

Long has scored as many as JRod this season. Does it really matter who scores so long as you win? He does more than enough work to justify his place in the Premier league.

So Priti Patel has told the police that there is no excuse for not cutting crime, this from the party who has decimated police numbers over the last decade whilst many types of crime have increased. When I worked at the CPS we were told the same. Despite the workload increasing and the staff numbers being cut annually we were told that we couldn’t use staff cuts as an “excuse” for not reaching our targets. Perhaps the people responsible for running the Criminal Justice System, the Home Office, should start taking responsibility for their own actions rather than hanging depleted work forces out to dry.

Obama and Clinton have joined the #metoo movement???

Two people wearing face masks in my local supermarket yesterday. You can’t be too careful!

Didn’t she give him his knighthood?

Football is all about winning and the three points. If you can do that in an entertaining way it is a bonus. There is not one person here who wouldn’t have traded a few wins in our poor patch for crap football earlier in the season. Burnley do what they need to do to survive and they are good at it. It is down to teams to beat them. They will go down eventually, but then so will many teams outside the top six.

Good to see the guilty verdicts although I don’t understand how he avoided the predatory charge. It’s incredible that he got away with so much for so long, but hopefully this will help put an end to serial abusers getting away scot free.

I think that there will be a few goals in this game. Given our away form I am going for a 3-2 win with Adams to finally break his duck.

Saw Little Women recently and it was excellent as was Emma.

No your right, I guess we are all hoping that it will be bought by a ring wing billionaire. After all, they can’t have too much control of the media can they?

The public?