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I think his point with rule 4 is about seeking your own self improvement and concentrate on being better than you were yesterday rather than comparing yourself to someone else. His lectures on the bible are very good too,particularly if you're not religious. His view is that the Bible contains universal truths about life and there's deep wisdom in it. Makes you think about it in a completely different way. Like I said earlier has become a bit odd in the last couple of years but he's definitely worth listening to if you want a good think about life and your mental health.

I'm very surprised you haven't heard of him. He shot to super stardom a few years ago and his 12 rules book has been a bestseller and credited with saving a fair amount of lives and straightening people out. You should also watch his long interview with Cathy Newman of Channel 4 infamy if you want a chuckle and a face-palm at the state of news reporting. Recommended.

Going by his posts yesterday I would be suspicious that this poster isn't a fishy friend.

I don't think that's old school, it's reality. It's why shit like 50 shades of grey sold so many copies. It's the kind of thing that everyone knows to be true but it won't be spoken about often because it makes people uncomfortable.

Yes that's my point its about personal responsibility. Some people feel worthless because in a lot of ways they are and you need to put in effort to improve your circumstances in whatever way you can. For many that's going to improve your mental health to a greater degree than sitting around talking about how bad you feel. My other point is worth repeating as well. Men have higher suicide rates not because they won't speak about their feelings in the same way that women do but because they aren't valued by society anywhere near as much as women are. If that was fixed then it would largely solve the issue imo.

Particularly sweet because these are the games where ordinarily we lose and it craps all over the weekend I had planned. I'm going to enjoy this one.

He has some really interesting things to say and has helped a lot of people. I have to say though I was rather put off by his interview last year about his illness and drug addiction and his bizarre daughter. He came across like a bit of a lunatic. I suppose that's what many incredibly intelligent individuals are like.

Agreed. Personally I think a large reason for the high male suicide is that on the whole no one actually gives a toss about men and their lives are valued to a much lesser degree than women (some may say fair enough given that women bring children into the world.) If society decided to actually value men to the same degree as women then I believe male suicide rates would see a significant decrease and that wouldn't be because all men were being told that they had to discuss their feelings with other men every time they feel low. That's not to say that that approach won't work for some men, but a number of them simply don't want it and its not because they've been conditioned by society its because men and women are different biologically.

Just popped back in to say isn't it glorious to get a win on a Friday? All weekend to be able to enjoy any of the rest of the footie knowing we already have our three points. Absolutely superb.

Its early days but I have to say that initial impressions about him prior to playing for us may have been incorrect and I couldn't be happier about that! Seems like a really decent bloke and a half decent footballer.

No you've misunderstood me completely. I'm none of these things by the way-I'm happy to discuss my feelings if required and I've never had any mental health issues. I've never said that only women talk about their problems but it's obvious that women are more willing to discuss feelings all the time and that's not always something that men want to do and that's not necessarily a negative thing. It's not a case of male pride or ego, mens brains are wired differently on average and my point is that talking in depth about feelings is not the universal solution for dealing with any problems that people have of that nature. I know people who have had mental health problems but have never found discussing their feelings all the time to be beneficial and its actually been more detrimental when that's the go to response and they are pressured into doing so. What actually worked for them were other things and I think it's true to say that other approaches can be more effective for some men. A lot of therapeutic approaches are created by women and largely with women in mind, therefore you get a lot of discussion about toxic masculinity and rarely do you get the idea of the benefits of masculinity and taking responsibility for your life (it's why the likes of Jordan Peterson has connected with so many young men regardless of what anyone thinks of him as a person.)

See my season starts now thread to confirm this analysis. I had seen enough from those early games to offer encouragement to suggest we would start picking up some useful points and we've surpassed that so far. It's lazy to suggest we've suddenly got miles better without taking into account the quality of opposition.

It quite clearly did work. We were much more solid after Lyanco and then Diallo came on.

It's not that I disagree with you and I understand why talking about feelings can be important but I do think there is on occasion a bit of a thing in modern society about oversharing and also that some people encourage men to resolve their issues in very traditionally feminine ways that they may not be comfortable with. In my experience, some mens problems can quite effectively be sorted by some company and spending time with friends. The last thing some of my mates would want is a big long conversation about their feelings, they'd prefer going fishing or having a few beers with their mates. I think there's value in different approaches and it would be a mistake for someone to make assumptions that make suicide is solely because men can't talk about their feelings- sometimes they would not have any desire to because that's not how they would resolve their issues.

Indeed. Its something we lacked past year. When we went ahead and got under the cosh in the second half we inevitably folded. Hasn't happened much this year thankfully. Really refreshing.

Well I think that's better than anyone could have realistically expected. Fingers crossed we also beat Norwich (would be very saintsy to lose that) and we'd end with a frankly ridiculous 13 out of 15 points. Fair to say we've got some stonking results without ever looking amazing? Great to grind out some fab results based on clean sheets. Long may that continue.

I'm at the game. Is it just more or have we had a ridiculous amount of corners we have done nothing with?

I've told you how much of a negative mental health impact you calling me a rape apologist has had and you've just ignored me. Continuing to not address my comment is having an ongoing negative health impact. I'd like this issue addressed if you are serious at wanting to address this issue.

I can only talk about myself but I have to say my mental health was pretty negatively affected when I was called a rape apologist and a far right extremist and a racist. All three of those things I considered to be incredibly abusive and it was quite upsetting. Something to think about.

You mean how isn't prepped to replace him in a couple of weeks?

Even 3 points from the next two would give us ten from these five which is a superb return.

Well then that's a better points ratio than I predicted. Could possibly get more than ten which would be a cracking return.

Cracking win. Probably our biggest game so far and to win it is superb. We aren't going down this year we are too good.

What I will say is I paid £26 for the Brighton game and I felt I got my moneys worth.

It's obviously a subjective thing and difficult to draw a line but I would personally like the rules to be stricter. Maybe those wanting to represent a nation other thab the one they were born in could appeal to some sort of board to make that decision. I consider it incredibly unfair for example that European nations hoover up many of the major African talents in football which deprives them of a better chance of winning something.