I’ve not watched Havant this season… but I’d drive Lyanco there myself. I’m sure the manager didn’t mean it literally and was being hyperbolic. (I agree with you that the personal abuse is out of order though)
I also do think it was much worse than Brentford away. I have never seen players look so confused. Salisu was shouting at the bench, edozie and Aribo were at full back. We had no midfield or structure. As Jo Tessem apparently said, it was literally chaos.
It was as bad as could be in the biggest game of the season. Football fans are emotional creatures.