sadoldgit

I wonder if Cortese know what he is talking about?

Playing with a red sash on the shirt?

They can fine him for this and take the arrears so he better hope that his ex doesn't tell the CSA!

The person handling my case was quite keen for me and my ex to come to an agreement between us as it saved her work and aggro. They can just then close the file, job done. Trouble is her partner got involved and wants what they say I should pay. My point is that I already pay that amount directly to the children via holidays, clothes etc and I can't afford to do that still if I pay them. So the support I gave them disappears and the money will just get swallowed up on my exs hair dressing appointments. What is wrong is the system for working out payments. It is not regional based, it is not means tested both sides of the divide. They tell me it costs £197 to bring up three children per week - surely that figures varies depending on where you live and what your lifestyle is like? When I see my girls I spend over £70 per day but I appreciate that is because we go to the cinema and do stuff. That doesn't get taken into account though yet my ex can't be bothered to take the kids out so if I don't do rarely happens.

A guy I know who goes to several games a year does not go online to read this stuff and has a completely different viewpoint to those found on here. He tends to me more player/perfmormance/manager focus and has no interest in the Cortese/Lowe/ Wilde/Crouch stuff (which is probably no bad thing). He always talks about the last game he saw and about the good and bad points. Maybe a triffle simplistic for the likes of us sophisticates!

I'd rather we waited for he players that we want than sign people for the sake of it. Why sign player B now if you can get player A a month or so later? Pardew knows what he is doing and knows what he wants. So far his signings have been fine. Yes, it would have been nice to have the squad sorted before the start of the season, but I have been supporting the Saints since 1966 and it hasn't happened yet!

I think you are probably right, but if he succeeds, no one will worry.

My ex had an affair. I did try and play it cool but she moved her mother into our house when I refused to move out and they would call the ploice at every opportunity prentending that I had assaulted them etc. The police always cart the man away if kids are involved so I got arrested quite frequently even though I did nothing. In the end I was advised by my very expensive solicitor not to go back the house. She was supposed to sell the house but ignored the court order. In theend my sols told me to sell to her, which I did at a large cost to myself. She did very well out of the divorce and beter still found out there was a single pilot living at the top of the road so she made a beeline for him and was even more quids in. She has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and any time I challenge her about anything she uses my contact with my children to get back at me. These people are very manipulative and very convincing. They are also completley self centred and selfish and the word compromise does not exist in their vocabulary, so anything I tried to do, no matter how reasonable, does not work unless she wants it to work.

She got all sorts of tax benefits, she got the house, I had to pay off the £17k credit card bill. All I got was told when I could and could not see my children. I continued to take them on holidays, buy them clothes etc when I wasn't earning. I had a 2 hours round trip to see them and not once was there an offer to drop them off or meet half way. They may well be my kids not his but he took me to court in order to overturn my contact order with the children so that he could move them to Spain.

He is there step dad and because of him they went to live in Spain for over 3 years. They could only go because he chose to pay for them to go to a fee paying International School. My ex wife gave up work because he earns over £150k a year (over £100k a year more than my partner and my joint earnings). If I dropped dead tomorrow and he refused to support the children how would she cope? He choose to marry a women with three children by one father and another by another. I think he should take financial responsibility (not all granted). When I married my ex she had a 7 year old daughter and I paid for everything as her father had passed away (thanks to the way my ex wife treated him - he took his own life after she threatened to prevent him from seeing his daughter). Each case should be handled on its own merits. If I lived in the Highland of Scotland my CSA contribution would be the same as if I lived in central London - there is no regional allowance. What the CSA call disposable income is a joke. They tell me that my partner and I have £775 "disposable income" each month. No we don't, we don't have any because it all goes on paying the bills that the CSA ignore.

There are many unfair issues. They don't take into account the income of my ex and her new partner. In fact even though he married her he is not liable to look after the children financially!!! Go figure. If you are not working they can still take some money from your jobseekers allowance. I appreciate the repsonses guys. It is good to know I am not the only one being turned over. I think you are right, they go after the soft targets and leave the "runners" alone.

I used to, then I was out of work for 3 years so stopped, although I still paid for holidays, clothes and stuff out of my savings. She then remarried and took the kids to Spain so I apid for holidays and stuff but not CSA. Now she is back and went straight to them. They know my financial situation and said I could seek an arrangement with her and her partner, but they are not interested and want the cash, even though they know it means I won't be able to take them away and have them so often. I accept I have to restart the payments but it is annoying when she can jerk me around with contact as much as she likes and that I seemingly have to pay £1300 arrears from 6 years back when I was unemployed. No justice in this at all.

He is Alps, that is what makes things worse. What they get from me is loose change to him but will make a huge difference to my partner and I, not least meaning I can't see the girls so often. For example, went down Saturday and took them to Brighton. Apart from the petrol to and from BH it was £10 on the train, £13 for pizza and £34 to see Toy Story 3 - not a lot of change out of £100 and not something I will be able to do very often now. Re the travelling, didn't know that. They did suggest they might make a reduction for travelling expenses to work but that turned out to be over 15 miles both ways in a straight line.

It is all loaded in favour of the mother's Benjii. Until this socity takes the view that fathers are equal we will continue to get stuffed. It is the same with Domestic Violence. There is this theory that it only takes place between men on women. It doesn't. A fair society is one that treats everyone equally. We don't here.

Yep, good idea. There is no means testing and it seems they have carte blanche when it comes to your wages. My exes husband earns over £150k a year as a pilot. They have a 4 bedroomed detached house and a three bedroomed flat from which they receive rent. I am a public servant on low wages, pay freeze for 2 years if I keep my job and I live in my partners house with no assets to my name. They have got us over a barrel and it sucks.

Sounds like a place well avoided then! Anyway, he will sign or he won't, why the handbags? I never thought we would sign a European Player of the Year but it happened. At his age he might see this as a good move. It is down to him and Pardew if he wants to try and sign him. Move on...

I have just received a delightful letter informing me that if I don't pay my ex wife £1300 arrears (this is from 6 years ago when I was unempolyed and knew nothing about until a few weeks ago) they will take 40% of my net income until it is paid off. I get no say in my kids upbringing. They were taken to live in Spain for over 3 years against my consent. They live over 40 miles away. My ex has told me she no longer is prepared to drop them off/pick them up half way so if I want to see them I have a 3 hour round trip. Child Support Agency? What about a bit of support for the fathers? I have taken my kids on holiday for the last 5 years, looked after them when the ex wanted to jet off with her pilot husband all round the world, bought them clothes, taken them out to fun places - and now I can get fleeced for money I allegedly owe from 6 years ago and get dicated too about how the contact with my children goes. And this is all legal. Little wonder people dress up as Spiderman and risk their lives climbing up public buildings!

Oh dear, herein lies the problem. You guys just don't get it do you?

It is not the name it is way he posts. If that changes so will the responses.

Sounds promising.

I used to go to a school in West Wickham, not far from Biggin Hill. Every year the WW2 planes would fly over the playing field and we would all stop and stare. You couldn't mistake the sound of the Spitfire's engine. I still drive my kids past Biggin Hill every now and again and show them the Spit and Hurricane ouside to remind them that we are here by the grace of those old crates and the bravery of the men who flew them.

Wot, no Elle Macpherson or Scarlett Johanssen?

BWP drove me crazy

I wonder if Alpine has anything to do with this?

More importantly, no Ron Davies?