Well lads and lasses, I have been totally overwhelmed by all you kind words and I can't tell you how much it means to me when I'm stuck in here. You have all stopped me from climbing up the walls. I have had time to think and if you'll excuse the ramblings of a boring old git I'd like to share some of my thoughts with you.
'He who does not find time for recreation must sooner or later make time for illness' is supposedly a Chinese proverb, although which Christmas cracker it comes from I've yet to establish. I thought I was reasonably fit, or at least that I used to be. I played football locally on Sunday mornings and later refereed but I was getting old and thought that business men like me did not need to exercise and were entitled to take things easy and drive around in luxury. The weight increased slowly, especially around the middle, and the trouser sizes crept up until Marks & Spencer no longer stocked my sizes. Then last year I found that I was seeing a lot and feeling dry in the mouth which are classic signs of diabetes. A urine glucose test had me called to the doctor urgently and now diagnosed with type 2 diabetes I started a programme of sensible eating and extra exercise, nothing too onerous but there were years of neglect needing to be reversed. I now think I know how I got there. Chronic stress is a much misunderstood term and doesn't mean that you spend all day tearing your hair out. You set yourself targets, maybe you have high ideals, perhaps you just want to get going and do everything at once. You work later in the evening, get home later, eat later, catch up on some more work. Maybe you want to get things straight before that meeting tomorrow, or it's raining this weekend so I'll pop into the office and sort out a few things, just so that it'll be easier on Monday. You can't sleep properly because your mind is still racing with all the thoughts pounding in your head. You'll eat high carbohydrate food, you'll still be on the computer at midnight, you don't sleep properly, the extra visceral fat around the belly means that you snore and suffer from sleep apnoea. All this is stress, which generates cortisol, which raises blood sugar and fat deposits around the belly. The important thing is the release from this stress so that the body can re-create. If you recognise yourself in any of this then maybe it's time for a rethink:
Shouting or swearing a lot.
When the phone rings is it 'I wonder who wants to speak to me?' or 'bloody hell, not again!'
Loud noises make you jump
You drive too fast and shout at all the other drivers.
You eat too quickly. Gulp your food without chewing or even tasting it.
You find yourself with a couple of spare hours and find some work to do instead of relaxing.
You hardly have time to talk to your family and/or loved ones (joke).
You drink 'for relaxation'.
You can't sit still for a minute.
I'm sure we can all think of many more. Learn that everything takes time, everything has its own natural rate, everything is for a purpose. We don't get long, let's not waste it. Enjoy the journey, just as much as the arrival.
I've been very lucky. No big damage has been done and I can be fixed, but others have not been so lucky. Please excuse all the dribbling but I've been talking to the walls and I don't get a lot of sense out of them. All the best to each and very one of you, it's nice to know you care.
(Guy Lombardo: Enjoy Yourself)
Further reading:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cortisol
http://www.nytimes.com/2002/12/17/science/the-heavy-cost-of-chronic-stress.html?pagewanted=all&src=pm
'How I learned to love life and stop worrying' by Whitey Grandad available at all good bookstores (I haven't actually written this yet)